{"id":990607,"date":"2023-06-19T21:36:45","date_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:36:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/haranta.dusanrybar.sk\/?p=990607"},"modified":"2023-06-19T21:36:45","modified_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:36:45","slug":"zamilovanost","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/zamilovanost\/","title":{"rendered":"ZAMILOVANOS\u0164"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Zamilovanos\u0165 alebo \u010do m\u00f4\u017ee za probl\u00e9my v na\u0161ich vz\u0165ahoch? <\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u010co je d\u00f4vodom, \u017ee veci v partnerstve, \u010do n\u00e1m vyhovovali, s\u00fa pre n\u00e1s \u010dasom neprijate\u013en\u00e9? Pre\u010do sa v\u0161etko v\u017edy tak ve\u013emi zmen\u00ed? Sex u\u017e nie je to, \u010do b\u00fdval, ak e\u0161te nejak\u00fd je. Jedn\u00fdm z najv\u00e4\u010d\u0161\u00edch probl\u00e9mov, pre\u010do sa toto deje, je, \u017ee sa nepozn\u00e1me. Nepozn\u00e1me svoje potreby, a to, \u010do od vz\u0165ahu po\u017eadujeme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Zamilovanos\u0165\"
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Partner sa st\u00e1va na\u0161ou drogou\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

N\u00e1sledne stretneme partnera, do ktor\u00e9ho sa zamilujeme. Mot\u00fdle v bruchu, pocit, akoby sme mali op\u00e4\u0165 \u0161estn\u00e1s\u0165 rokov. U\u017e\u00edvame si chemick\u00fd kokteil, ktor\u00fd n\u00e1m je pumpovan\u00fd do tela. Zrazu v\u0161etko vyzer\u00e1 inak, v\u0161etko je kraj\u0161ie, sme spokojnej\u0161\u00ed a vyrovnanej\u0161\u00ed. Sme ochotn\u00ed urobi\u0165 pre partnera v\u0161etko, len aby sme mohli by\u0165 s n\u00edm a za\u017e\u00edva\u0165 t\u00fato ext\u00e1zu a ten pocit naplnenia. Milovanie chut\u00ed inak, bav\u00ed n\u00e1s to a najrad\u0161ej by sme sa od partnera ani neodtrhli. Partner sa st\u00e1va na\u0161ou drogou a jedin\u00e9, \u010do chceme, je osta\u0165 s n\u00edm u\u017e naveky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vezmeme sa, m\u00e1me spolu die\u0165a a hypot\u00e9ku a tam niekde sa to cel\u00e9 za\u010dne kazi\u0165. Partner u\u017e nie je na\u0161ou drogou. Prehliadame prv\u00e9 n\u00e1znaky probl\u00e9mov \u2013 ve\u010f predsa \u010dasom sa vyrie\u0161ia\u2026 Po \u010dase si zvykneme na probl\u00e9my, na h\u00e1dky o ni\u010dom alebo na absenciu komunik\u00e1cie. Z partnera sa st\u00e1va viac spolub\u00fdvaj\u00faci ako partner, a my nevieme, ako z toho von. M\u00e1me predsa deti, hypot\u00e9ku, rodiny sa poznaj\u00fa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ako m\u00f4\u017eeme z tak\u00e9ho nie\u010doho od\u00eds\u0165? Ve\u010f \u010do by na to povedali v\u0161etci ostatn\u00ed? Nebudeme predsa \u010fal\u0161\u00ed, ktor\u00ed zlyhali v partnerstve! No to, \u017ee zlyh\u00e1vame vo\u010di sebe, si ani neuvedomujeme. To, \u017ee \u017eijeme v klamstve a navonok sa tv\u00e1rime ako \u0161\u0165astn\u00e1 rodinka, sa n\u00e1m zd\u00e1 v poriadku. Zab\u00fadame, \u017ee to najd\u00f4le\u017eitej\u0161ie, \u010do m\u00e1me, je n\u00e1\u0161 \u017eivot, a nie to, ako n\u00e1s vidia ostatn\u00ed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toto je \u0161tandardn\u00fd model partnerstva (na p\u00e1r v\u00fdnimiek, ktor\u00e9 keby sme rozobrali do h\u013abky, zist\u00edme, \u017ee mo\u017eno ani nie s\u00fa). Znamen\u00e1 to, \u017ee by sme teraz v\u0161etci mali \u00eds\u0165 od seba a roz\u00eds\u0165 sa, alebo rozvies\u0165? Ur\u010dite nie v\u0161etci. Len v t\u00fdch pr\u00edpadoch, ke\u010f sme tak nekompatibiln\u00ed s na\u0161\u00edm partnerom, \u017ee udr\u017ea\u0165 partnerstvo je neust\u00e1ly boj a stoji n\u00e1s to takmer v\u0161etku \u017eivotn\u00fa energiu. Sme tu predsa na to, aby sme sa pos\u00favali vpred, aby sme sa vyv\u00edjali a u\u017e\u00edvali si, a nie bojovali a trpeli. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

U\u017e je \u010das na budovanie vedom\u00fdch a podporuj\u00facich partnerstiev. Je \u010das, aby sme sa nau\u010dili, ako na to. Ako \u017ei\u0165 a ako vst\u00fapi\u0165 do partnerstva vedome a u\u017e\u00edva\u0165 si svoj \u017eivot naplno s partnerom, ktor\u00fd sa k n\u00e1m hod\u00ed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chceme tak naozaj \u017ei\u0165?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Zamilovanos\u0165 n\u00e1m v tom ve\u013emi nepom\u00e1ha. Je to stav, akoby sme boli na drog\u00e1ch, nevid\u00edme pravdu, na\u0161e videnie a vn\u00edmanie je pokriven\u00e9, vytv\u00e1rame si il\u00fazie a fant\u00e1zie a mno\u017estvo domnienok a predpokladov. M\u00e1me tendenciu strati\u0165 sa v partnerovi, strati\u0165 svoju identitu a urobi\u0165 pre neho takmer v\u0161etko, len aby ten pocit neodi\u0161iel. \u010co si treba uvedomi\u0165 je, \u017ee t\u00fa drogu nevytv\u00e1ra partner, ale na\u0161e telo. Preto, ke\u010f sa boj\u00edme, \u017ee ke\u010f n\u00e1s partner opust\u00ed a n\u00e1sledne strat\u00edme ten pocit, tak sa m\u00fdlime. To by sme museli strati\u0165 \u010dasti fyzick\u00e9ho tela, ktor\u00e9 produkuj\u00fa tento kokteil. \u00c1no, ke\u010f od\u00edde, prestane na\u0161e telo vytv\u00e1ra\u0165 tieto l\u00e1tky, no treba ma\u0165 na pam\u00e4ti, \u017ee je to v\u017edy len do\u010dasn\u00e9 a z\u00e1rove\u0148 n\u00e1s to dr\u017e\u00ed v il\u00fazi\u00ed. Chceme tak naozaj \u017ei\u0165? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Str\u00e1came z\u00e1ujem m\u00ed\u0148a\u0165 energiu na nie\u010do, \u010do je pre n\u00e1s nepodstatn\u00e9<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Pr\u00edklad: v tejto zamilovanosti \u017eeny, ktor\u00e9 nezn\u00e1\u0161aj\u00fa futbal, s\u00fa schopn\u00e9 s partnerom pozera\u0165 z\u00e1pasy, t\u00fali\u0165 sa pri tom k nemu a u\u017e\u00edva\u0165 si t\u00fa bl\u00edzkos\u0165. Naopak, ak \u017eenu zauj\u00edma z\u00e1chrana plan\u00e9ty, po\u010dn\u00fac trieden\u00edm odpadkov a\u017e po stretnutia za pr\u00e1va zvierat, tak mu\u017e sa sna\u017e\u00ed ju podporova\u0165 aj ke\u010f dovtedy by toto boli posledn\u00e9 aktivity, ktor\u00fdm by sa venoval. Id\u00fa spolu na zhroma\u017edenia a rie\u0161ia tieto t\u00e9my spolo\u010dne. No ako zamilovanos\u0165 opad\u00e1va, opad\u00e1va aj z\u00e1ujem robi\u0165 veci s partnerom, ktor\u00e9 n\u00e1s nenap\u013a\u0148aj\u00fa a ni\u010d n\u00e1m  ned\u00e1vaj\u00fa. Dost\u00e1vame sa do f\u00e1zy stereotypu a samozrejmosti. Do f\u00e1zy, ke\u010f n\u00e1s u\u017e tieto drogy, ke\u010f sme spolu, neovplyv\u0148uj\u00fa a r\u00fdchlo str\u00e1came z\u00e1ujem m\u00ed\u0148a\u0165 energiu na nie\u010do, \u010do je pre n\u00e1s nepodstatn\u00e9. Il\u00fazie sa rozpl\u00fdvaj\u00fa a my nevieme pre\u017eu\u0165, \u017ee sme s partnerom, ktor\u00fd sa spr\u00e1va inak a zis\u0165ujeme, \u017ee sa vlastne nepozn\u00e1me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010co s t\u00fdm?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Toto plat\u00ed rovnako pre novo vznikaj\u00face p\u00e1ry, ako aj pre u\u017e existuj\u00face:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prv\u00fd krok je spozna\u0165 s\u00e1m seba. Svoje t\u00fa\u017eby<\/a>, v\u00e1\u0161ne, potreby. N\u00e1sledne si zadefinova\u0165 po\u017eiadavky od partnera vo vz\u0165ahu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Druh\u00fdm krokom je spozn\u00e1va\u0165 partnera. To ako sme kompatibiln\u00ed v d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00fdch oblastiach n\u00e1\u0161ho \u017eivota a ako k nim pristupujeme. Komunikova\u0165 svoje po\u017eiadavky obojstranne a poveda\u0165 si, \u010di s\u00fa splnite\u013en\u00e9 a \u010di ich m\u00e1 partner z\u00e1ujem plni\u0165. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ak zist\u00edme, \u017ee nie sme kompatibiln\u00ed a nem\u00e1me z\u00e1ujem plni\u0165 d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 po\u017eiadavky partnera, treba sa sp\u00fdta\u0165, ak\u00fd ma zmysel zost\u00e1va\u0165 v takomto vz\u0165ahu a tr\u00e1pi\u0165 sa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ak sme kompatibiln\u00ed a po\u017eiadavky n\u00e1m vyhovuj\u00fa, tak treba za\u010da\u0165 pracova\u0165 na partnerstve, a to cez tak\u00e9 kvality partnerstva, ako s\u00fa napr\u00edklad d\u00f4vera, v\u010fa\u010dnos\u0165, podpora, komplimenty, stara\u0165 sa o seba a dobre vyzera\u0165 pre seba a partnera, akt\u00edvne po\u010d\u00fava\u0165, zdie\u013ea\u0165 spolo\u010dne probl\u00e9my a spolu r\u00e1s\u0165. Tieto kvality treba uplat\u0148ova\u0165 denne. Ka\u017ed\u00e9 r\u00e1no si treba uvedomi\u0165, \u017ee sme v\u010fa\u010dn\u00ed za to, \u017ee je to \u010fal\u0161\u00ed de\u0148, ke\u010f sa n\u00e1\u0161 partner rozhodol by\u0165 s nami. Ak nie sme, tak sa treba zamyslie\u0165 nad t\u00fdm, kde je probl\u00e9m, a pre\u010do je to tak. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sme slobodn\u00e9 bytosti a ak sa tak k sebe budeme spr\u00e1va\u0165 a ch\u00e1pa\u0165, \u017ee je darom, ak je n\u00e1\u0161 partner s nami \u2013 preto\u017ee m\u00f4\u017ee kedyko\u013evek od\u00eds\u0165 \u2013 tak si ho budeme v\u00e1\u017ei\u0165 a re\u0161pektova\u0165 \u00faplne in\u00fdm sp\u00f4sobom a n\u00e1\u0161 z\u00e1ujem pracova\u0165 na partnerstve sa nestrat\u00ed.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Zamilovanos\u0165 alebo \u010do m\u00f4\u017ee za probl\u00e9my v na\u0161ich vz\u0165ahoch?  \u010co je d\u00f4vodom, \u017ee veci v partnerstve, \u010do n\u00e1m vyhovovali, s\u00fa pre n\u00e1s \u010dasom neprijate\u013en\u00e9? Pre\u010do sa v\u0161etko v\u017edy tak ve\u013emi zmen\u00ed? Sex u\u017e nie je to, \u010do b\u00fdval, ak e\u0161te nejak\u00fd je. Jedn\u00fdm z najv\u00e4\u010d\u0161\u00edch probl\u00e9mov, pre\u010do sa toto deje, je, \u017ee sa nepozn\u00e1me. Nepozn\u00e1me svoje potreby,…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":990852,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","iawp_total_views":4,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-990607","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-nezaradene","pmpro-has-access"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990607","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=990607"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990607\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/990852"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=990607"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=990607"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=990607"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}