{"id":990603,"date":"2023-06-19T21:36:04","date_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:36:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/haranta.dusanrybar.sk\/?p=990603"},"modified":"2023-06-19T21:36:04","modified_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:36:04","slug":"dobra-zienka-alebo-potvora","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/dobra-zienka-alebo-potvora\/","title":{"rendered":"DOBR\u00c1 \u017dIENKA ALEBO POTVORA"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Pre\u010do m\u00e1me tak\u00e9to presved\u010denia a nastavenia?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Mnohokr\u00e1t sa v mojej pr\u00e1ci stret\u00e1vam s t\u00fdm, \u017ee mi \u010di u\u017e mu\u017ei, alebo \u017eeny povedia, \u017ee k\u00fdm sa spr\u00e1vali zle, k\u00fdm boli tvrd\u00ed, arogantn\u00ed, protivn\u00ed, tak sa im vo vz\u0165ahoch darilo \u010faleko lep\u0161ie. Bol o nich v\u00e4\u010d\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1ujem a \u017eilo sa im \u013eah\u0161ie. Pre\u010do vlastne m\u00e1me tak\u00e9to presved\u010denia a nastavenia?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Preto\u017ee si mysl\u00edme,  \u017ee je to naozaj tak. Mnoh\u00ed z n\u00e1s s t\u00fdm doteraz \u017eij\u00fa. Sami m\u00e1me pocit, \u017ee v\u0161etci t\u00ed, ktor\u00ed sa spr\u00e1vaj\u00fa hor\u0161ie ako my, arogantnej\u0161ie, nevn\u00edmaj\u00fa city druh\u00fdch a svoje vlastn\u00e9, \u017ee sa maj\u00fa lep\u0161ie. A maj\u00fa lep\u0161ie vz\u0165ahy<\/a>. Je to naozaj len povrchov\u00e9 vn\u00edmanie. Skuto\u010dnos\u0165 je \u00faplne in\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To, \u017ee nie\u010do nerie\u0161im, neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee tam nie je probl\u00e9m.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Aj ke\u010f to na povrch vyzer\u00e1, \u017ee je to \u013eah\u0161ie, skuto\u010dnos\u0165 je in\u00e1. V\u00e4\u010d\u0161inou sa to odzrkadl\u00ed na zdravotnom stave a psychickom stave alebo r\u00f4znymi \u010fal\u0161\u00edmi vecami, napr\u00edklad ako \u017eijem svoj \u017eivot, ako sa mi dar\u00ed, ale aj na hojnosti \u2013 \u010di m\u00e1m v\u0161etk\u00e9ho dostatok. To v\u0161etko s\u00fa ukazovatele toho, \u010di som naozaj tak v poriadku, ako si mysl\u00edm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No pre\u010do je to vlastne tak, \u017ee ak sa za\u010dneme spr\u00e1va\u0165 lep\u0161ie, ak n\u00e1m za\u010dne z\u00e1le\u017ea\u0165 na ostatn\u00fdch, tak sa k n\u00e1m spr\u00e1vaj\u00fa hor\u0161ie?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160tandardne je to t\u00fdm, \u017ee nem\u00e1me vyrie\u0161en\u00e9 veci sami v sebe. \u017de na\u0161a hodnota nie je na takej \u00farovni a ke\u010f to za\u010dneme vn\u00edma\u0165, za\u010d\u00edname to c\u00edti\u0165, tak t\u00ed na\u0161i bl\u00edzki, naj\u010dastej\u0161ie partner, n\u00e1m to odzrkad\u013euje a ukazuje n\u00e1m to. V podstate n\u00e1m t\u00fdm pom\u00e1ha. A to, \u010do n\u00e1s na tom najviac hnev\u00e1, je v skuto\u010dnosti nie\u010do, za \u010do by sme mali by\u0165 v\u010fa\u010dn\u00ed, preto\u017ee n\u00e1m ukazuje, \u017ee m\u00e1me v sebe nie\u010do nespracovan\u00e9, nejak\u00fd probl\u00e9m, ktor\u00fd ke\u010f si spracujeme a vyrie\u0161ime, tak n\u00e1m bude \u010faleko \u013eah\u0161ie. Toto je v podstate hlavn\u00fd d\u00f4vod, pre\u010do sa toto v n\u00e1s odohr\u00e1va. Ke\u010f za\u010d\u00edname viac pracova\u0165 na sebe, ke\u010f za\u010d\u00edname by\u0165 lep\u0161\u00edmi, pre\u010do m\u00e1me pocit, \u017ee v podstate je to hor\u0161ie? Je to len o tom, \u017ee za\u010dneme vn\u00edma\u0165 veci, ktor\u00e9 sme naozaj nevideli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00fdm, \u017ee ich vid\u00edme, t\u00fdm, \u017ee ich vn\u00edmame a spracujeme ich, tak sa n\u00e1m za\u010dne \u017ei\u0165 lep\u0161ie. Akur\u00e1t mus\u00edme by\u0165 ochotn\u00ed sa na ne pozrie\u0165. Mus\u00edme by\u0165 ochotn\u00ed ich zmeni\u0165. A hlavne, namiesto hnevania sa na svojho partnera za to, \u017ee n\u00e1m odzrkad\u013euje to, \u010do v n\u00e1s nie je spracovan\u00e9, by sme mali by\u0165 naozaj v\u010fa\u010dn\u00ed a bra\u0165 ho ako u\u010dite\u013ea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Je potrebn\u00e9 prija\u0165 svoju ne\u017enos\u0165<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Postupne, ke\u010f si to vyrie\u0161ime, tak budeme fungova\u0165 ako ve\u013emi siln\u00e9 zrkadlo pre v\u0161etk\u00fdch ostatn\u00fdch. Preto\u017ee v n\u00e1s sa bude odzrkad\u013eova\u0165 to, \u010do na\u0161e okolie  nem\u00e1 spracovan\u00e9 a n\u00e1m sa to u\u017e podarilo spracova\u0165. Niektor\u00ed \u013eudia, ktor\u00ed bud\u00fa chcie\u0165 na tom pracova\u0165, n\u00e1s bud\u00fa doslova vyh\u013ead\u00e1va\u0165, preto\u017ee c\u00edtia, \u017ee v n\u00e1s je to in\u00e9. A chc\u00fa to ma\u0165 tie\u017e tak, ako to m\u00e1me my. Tak\u017ee odpove\u010f na to, \u010di by\u0165 ne\u017en\u00e1 alebo rad\u0161ej potvora je, \u017ee je v prvom rade potrebn\u00e9 prija\u0165 svoju ne\u017enos\u0165. Preto\u017ee v tej ne\u017enosti, v tej jemnosti, sa d\u00e1 naozaj objavi\u0165 t\u00e1 skuto\u010dn\u00e1 sila. Aj ke\u010f sa rozpr\u00e1vame o ne\u017enosti, tak v\u00e4\u010d\u0161ina \u017eien sa uzavrie, u\u017e len pred t\u00fdm slovom, preto\u017ee strach z toho, \u017ee bude slab\u00e1, ke\u010f je ne\u017en\u00e1, je ve\u013emi ve\u013ek\u00fd. No skuto\u010dn\u00e1 sila le\u017e\u00ed v zranite\u013enosti, v otvorenosti, v pravdivosti, a autenticite. Ak \u017eena chce by\u0165 autentick\u00e1, pravdiv\u00e1, sama sebou, potrebuje odhali\u0165 svoju ne\u017enos\u0165, \u017eenskos\u0165, jemnos\u0165. A v tom sa postav\u00ed do svojej sily. A ob\u010das treba by\u0165 aj potvora, ale l\u00e1skavo a jemne. Je to \u00faplne nie\u010do in\u00e9 a tie pocity, ktor\u00e9 za\u010dneme popritom za\u017e\u00edva\u0165 \u2013 s\u00fa nie\u010do, \u010do v podstate nepozn\u00e1me. Samozrejme, ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00e1 slobodn\u00fa vo\u013ebu. A m\u00f4\u017ee sa rozhodn\u00fa\u0165, ako chce. Ke\u010f niekto chce by\u0165 protivn\u00fd, preto\u017ee si mysl\u00ed, \u017ee mu je tak \u013eah\u0161ie a nemus\u00ed ni\u010d rie\u0161i\u0165, samozrejme m\u00f4\u017ee. Ot\u00e1zka je, \u010do mu to prin\u00e1\u0161a, \u010do t\u00fdm sp\u00f4sobuje a ako \u010faleko s t\u00fdm vlastne z\u00e1jde. Tak\u017ee, ak si mysl\u00edte, \u017ee naozaj t\u00ed, ktor\u00ed sa spr\u00e1vaj\u00fa nepekne k druh\u00fdm, to maj\u00fa v \u017eivote \u013eah\u0161ie, verte mi, \u017ee to nie je tak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ak ste o tom presved\u010den\u00ed, tak za\u010dnite by\u0165 zl\u00ed aj vy, ve\u013emi r\u00fdchlo zist\u00edte, pre\u010do to nie je pravda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010co s t\u00fdm m\u00f4\u017eeme robi\u0165?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Treba sa zbavi\u0165 t\u00fdch presved\u010den\u00ed a vn\u00edmania, ktor\u00e9 m\u00e1me v sebe. A to \u2013  ke\u010f sa nestar\u00e1m o nikoho a o ni\u010d, tak mi je lep\u0161ie. V podstate to je pravda, ale len \u010diasto\u010dne. Na to, aby to naozaj bolo dobr\u00e9, potrebujeme zmeni\u0165 nastavenie, \u017ee nestaranie sa o nikoho a o ni\u010d neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee som arogantn\u00fd, zl\u00fd a tvrd\u00fd. Ale zauj\u00edmam sa o seba, \u017eijem svoj \u017eivot pre seba naplno v l\u00e1skavosti,  jemnosti a tak sa spr\u00e1vam aj k ostatn\u00fdm. Toto je jedin\u00fd sp\u00f4sob, ako to dosiahnu\u0165. Star\u00e1me sa o seba a z\u00e1rove\u0148 nie sme zl\u00ed na ostatn\u00fdch t\u00fdm, \u017ee komunikujeme veci autenticky, pravdivo, ale st\u00e1le l\u00e1skavo. Preto\u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd potrebuje \u017ei\u0165 svoj \u017eivot. Ka\u017ed\u00fd mus\u00ed vidie\u0165 najprv s\u00e1m seba, aby mohol vidie\u0165 t\u00fdch ostatn\u00fdch. A nie, nie je to sebeck\u00e9. Preto\u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00e1 svoj vlastn\u00fd \u017eivot a ka\u017ed\u00fd sa narodil a \u017eije ten \u017eivot s\u00e1m pre seba a je to jeho \u017eivot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nenarodili sme sa preto, aby sme \u017eili pre niekoho in\u00e9ho. O tom by to malo cel\u00e9 by\u0165.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Pre\u010do m\u00e1me tak\u00e9to presved\u010denia a nastavenia? Mnohokr\u00e1t sa v mojej pr\u00e1ci stret\u00e1vam s t\u00fdm, \u017ee mi \u010di u\u017e mu\u017ei, alebo \u017eeny povedia, \u017ee k\u00fdm sa spr\u00e1vali zle, k\u00fdm boli tvrd\u00ed, arogantn\u00ed, protivn\u00ed, tak sa im vo vz\u0165ahoch darilo \u010faleko lep\u0161ie. Bol o nich v\u00e4\u010d\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1ujem a \u017eilo sa im \u013eah\u0161ie. Pre\u010do vlastne m\u00e1me tak\u00e9to presved\u010denia a nastavenia?…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":990854,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","iawp_total_views":2,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-990603","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-nezaradene","pmpro-has-access"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990603","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=990603"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990603\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/990854"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=990603"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=990603"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=990603"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}