{"id":990599,"date":"2023-06-19T21:35:15","date_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:35:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/haranta.dusanrybar.sk\/?p=990599"},"modified":"2023-06-19T21:35:15","modified_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:35:15","slug":"som-dobra-matka","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/som-dobra-matka\/","title":{"rendered":"SOM DOBR\u00c1 MATKA?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Mnoho \u017eien si kladie ot\u00e1zku \u2013 som dobr\u00e1 matka?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

V mnoh\u00fdch situ\u00e1ci\u00e1ch \u017eena niekde v sebe na pozad\u00ed c\u00edti, \u017ee si nie je ist\u00e1 t\u00fdm, \u010di je dobr\u00e1 matka a \u010di vlastne chce ma\u0165 deti. V niektor\u00fdch momentoch m\u00e1 pocit, \u017ee ju pripravuj\u00fa o jej vlastn\u00fa slobodu a jej mo\u017enosti \u017eitia naplno. Poci\u0165uje limity, ktor\u00e9 jej sp\u00f4sobuj\u00fa. Ke\u010f\u017ee sa v podstate stala z\u00e1vislou na tom, \u010do jej deti chc\u00fa, alebo \u010do jej deti robia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Obr\u00e1zok od StockSnap<\/a> z Pixabay<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Programy, ktor\u00e9 nos\u00edme v sebe<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Toto v\u0161etko m\u00f4\u017ee vies\u0165 k pocitom, \u017ee ne\u017eijeme vlastn\u00fd \u017eivot, \u017eijeme ho pre niekoho a str\u00e1came svoju vlastn\u00fa identitu, str\u00e1came svoju slobodu a sam\u00fdch seba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ve\u013emi ve\u013ea \u017eien m\u00e1 tak\u00e9to programy v sebe. Len m\u00e1loktor\u00e1 m\u00e1 naozaj odvahu sa na ne pozrie\u0165, pripusti\u0165, \u017ee ich v sebe m\u00e1 a pomenova\u0165 ich. Preto\u017ee to je predsa nespr\u00e1vne. Ve\u010f predsa mus\u00edme by\u0165 \u201edobr\u00e1 matka\u201c, naplno milova\u0165 svoje deti, nech sa deje \u010doko\u013evek. Toto je jedna z prv\u00fdch ch\u00fdb. My m\u00f4\u017eeme milova\u0165 svoje deti a z\u00e1rove\u0148 m\u00f4\u017eeme prech\u00e1dza\u0165 r\u00f4znymi t\u00fdmito pocitmi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pre\u010do? Preto\u017ee v\u00e4\u010d\u0161ina t\u00fdchto pocitov ide z hlbok\u00fdch vn\u00fatorn\u00fdch presved\u010den\u00ed, ktor\u00e9 m\u00e1me vo svojom podvedom\u00ed a ktor\u00e9 s\u00fa sp\u00f4soben\u00e9 napr\u00edklad na\u0161im detstvom. Ak sme boli nechcen\u00e9 die\u0165a alebo na\u0161i rodi\u010dia o\u010dak\u00e1vali in\u00e9 pohlavie<\/a>, ne\u017e s ak\u00fdm sme sa narodili, tak u\u017e v maternici sme sa mohli za\u010da\u0165 c\u00edti\u0165, \u017ee nie sme dos\u0165 dobr\u00ed. \u017de sme tu vlastne navy\u0161e, \u017ee sem nepatr\u00edme, \u017ee nie sme hodn\u00ed, \u017ee sme nedostato\u010dn\u00ed. Nech rob\u00edme \u010doko\u013evek, st\u00e1le nebudeme dos\u0165. \u017de sme nenaplnili o\u010dak\u00e1vania na\u0161ich rodi\u010dov, \u017ee sme ich sklamali. Tieto v\u0161etky presved\u010denia n\u00e1s vedia celkom v\u00fdrazne pozna\u010di\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sklamanie z o\u010dak\u00e1vania<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Za\u010dneme sa viac sna\u017ei\u0165, za\u010dneme dokazova\u0165 na\u0161im rodi\u010dom, \u017ee sme dos\u0165 dobr\u00ed a ideme proti sebe. \u010castokr\u00e1t len preto, aby sme z\u00edskali ich potvrdenie, aby sme z\u00edskali to, \u017ee n\u00e1m raz povedia, ako ve\u013emi n\u00e1s miluj\u00fa a s\u00fa na n\u00e1s hrd\u00ed. A nez\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed na tom, \u017ee v skuto\u010dnosti n\u00e1s miluj\u00fa a d\u00e1vaj\u00fa n\u00e1m v\u0161etko, a ten pocit bol len na chv\u00ed\u013eu, lebo sme nesplnili ich moment\u00e1lne o\u010dak\u00e1vania. A o\u010dak\u00e1vanie je naozaj nie\u010do, \u010do n\u00e1m ve\u013emi ubli\u017euje. V skuto\u010dnosti n\u00e1m ni\u010d ned\u00e1va, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 t\u00fdmto o\u010dak\u00e1van\u00edm m\u00f4\u017eeme ve\u013emi ubl\u00ed\u017ei\u0165. Preto\u017ee die\u0165a vie rozl\u00ed\u0161i\u0165 len t\u00fa energiu, ktor\u00e1 tam v ten moment je a rovnako aj sklamanie z toho o\u010dak\u00e1vania. Ono nevie, \u017ee to bolo len o\u010dak\u00e1vanie a na tom predsa nez\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed a \u017ee t\u00ed rodi\u010dia ho naozaj naplno miluj\u00fa. T\u00e1 \u0161koda u\u017e tam je, u\u017e sa stala.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Presta\u0148te sa obvi\u0148ova\u0165\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Samozrejme sa to d\u00e1 zmeni\u0165, d\u00e1 sa to odstr\u00e1ni\u0165 z podvedomia, d\u00e1 sa to napravi\u0165. \u010eal\u0161\u00edm zdrojom t\u00fdchto vn\u00fatorn\u00fdch presved\u010den\u00ed m\u00f4\u017eu by\u0165 genetick\u00e9 alebo historick\u00e9 programy v n\u00e1s, pr\u00edpadne presved\u010denia z kolekt\u00edvneho vedomia. S\u00fa to v\u0161etko presved\u010denia, ktor\u00e9 sa budovali rokmi. S\u00fa najm\u00e4 v \u017een\u00e1ch, preto\u017ee \u017eeny mnohokr\u00e1t znamenali menej, boli pova\u017eovan\u00e9 za menejcenn\u00e9. Ak sa im narodilo napr\u00edklad diev\u010da<\/a> a nie chlapec, tak im to dali patri\u010dne poc\u00edti\u0165. V niektor\u00fdch kult\u00farach sa diev\u010datk\u00e1 zab\u00edjali. Vtedy sa c\u00edtili, \u017ee nie s\u00fa dobr\u00fdmi matkami, preto\u017ee nezvl\u00e1dli porodi\u0165 chlapca. V\u0161etky tieto presved\u010denia sa m\u00f4\u017eu naozaj pos\u00fava\u0165 z gener\u00e1cie na gener\u00e1ciu a m\u00f4\u017eeme ich ma\u0165 v sebe, ani netu\u0161\u00edme pre\u010do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To znamen\u00e1, \u017ee ak sa obvi\u0148ujete alebo trest\u00e1te za to, \u017ee m\u00e1te pocit, \u017ee nie ste dobr\u00e1 matka, alebo \u017ee nemilujete dostato\u010dne svoje deti, alebo \u017ee by ste ich niekedy najrad\u0161ej nemali, tak sa presta\u0148te obvi\u0148ova\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00fdmto prech\u00e1dza mnoho, mnoho \u017eien. Treba si to pomenova\u0165, uvedomi\u0165 a za\u010da\u0165 s t\u00fdm nie\u010do robi\u0165. Zmeni\u0165 to. Preto\u017ee sme emo\u010dn\u00e9 bytosti, je norm\u00e1lne ma\u0165 r\u00f4zne em\u00f3cie. Je norm\u00e1lne, \u017ee n\u00e1s deti niekedy na\u0161tv\u00fa, je norm\u00e1lne, \u017ee m\u00e1me niekedy pocit, \u017ee by sme ich najrad\u0161ej nemali, preto\u017ee chceme ma\u0165 svoj priestor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u0161etko z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed od toho, ako hlboko je to v n\u00e1s<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Netreba zab\u00fada\u0165, \u017ee m\u00e1me partnera, bl\u00edzkych, s nimi to m\u00f4\u017eeme pomenova\u0165 a m\u00f4\u017eu n\u00e1m pom\u00f4c\u0165, aby sme si vedeli da\u0165 pauzu, ke\u010f ju potrebujeme. Mnohokr\u00e1t len t\u00fdm pomenovan\u00edm, t\u00fdm, \u017ee to vypust\u00edme zo seba, n\u00e1s to prestane tr\u00e1pi\u0165. V\u0161etko z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed od toho, ako hlboko je to v n\u00e1s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No v\u0161etko st\u00e1le za\u010d\u00edna len t\u00fdm prv\u00fdm krokom, a to je uvedomenie si toho a pomenovanie. Druh\u00fdm krokom je za\u010da\u0165 to komunikova\u0165, za\u010da\u0165 to rie\u0161i\u0165. Preto\u017ee, ak to nech\u00e1vame doslova vyhni\u0165 v n\u00e1s, tak sa ten probl\u00e9m \u0161tandardne akumuluje, my sa z toho c\u00edtime zle a negat\u00edvne a to ovplyv\u0148uje cel\u00fa na\u0161u rodinu. A aj na\u0161e deti. Tie c\u00edtia, \u017ee nie\u010do nie je v poriadku a obvi\u0148uj\u00fa seba, \u017ee nie\u010do spravili zle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ak by za\u010dali by\u0165 v\u0161etci pravdiv\u00ed, \u017eilo by sa n\u00e1m ove\u013ea \u013eah\u0161ie.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Tieto programy vedia by\u0165 neuverite\u013ene siln\u00e9. Vedia n\u00e1s doslova zni\u010di\u0165. Ak to niekto pomenuje a n\u00e1jde odvahu, mnohokr\u00e1t je naozaj ods\u00faden\u00fd v\u0161etk\u00fdmi ostatn\u00fdmi, aj napriek tomu, \u017ee to v sebe maj\u00fa aj t\u00ed, \u010do odsudzuj\u00fa, len to nem\u00f4\u017eu uk\u00e1za\u0165. Preto\u017ee, ak by to uk\u00e1zali, znamenalo by to, \u017ee by boli aj oni t\u00ed zl\u00ed, neboli by dostato\u010dn\u00ed a mohli by by\u0165 tie\u017e ods\u00faden\u00ed. Preto rad\u0161ej veselo odsudzuj\u00fa len preto, aby zakryli, \u017ee to maj\u00fa aj oni v sebe. Ak by za\u010dali by\u0165 v\u0161etci pravdiv\u00ed, \u017eilo by sa n\u00e1m ove\u013ea \u013eah\u0161ie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010co vy na to? Vysk\u00fa\u0161ate to?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prajem kr\u00e1sny de\u0148.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Mnoho \u017eien si kladie ot\u00e1zku \u2013 som dobr\u00e1 matka? V mnoh\u00fdch situ\u00e1ci\u00e1ch \u017eena niekde v sebe na pozad\u00ed c\u00edti, \u017ee si nie je ist\u00e1 t\u00fdm, \u010di je dobr\u00e1 matka a \u010di vlastne chce ma\u0165 deti. V niektor\u00fdch momentoch m\u00e1 pocit, \u017ee ju pripravuj\u00fa o jej vlastn\u00fa slobodu a jej mo\u017enosti \u017eitia naplno. Poci\u0165uje limity, ktor\u00e9 jej sp\u00f4sobuj\u00fa….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":990856,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","iawp_total_views":7,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-990599","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-nezaradene","pmpro-has-access"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990599","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=990599"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990599\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/990856"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=990599"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=990599"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=990599"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}