{"id":990593,"date":"2023-06-19T21:34:17","date_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:34:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/haranta.dusanrybar.sk\/?p=990593"},"modified":"2023-06-19T21:34:17","modified_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:34:17","slug":"vycitky-a-vina","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/vycitky-a-vina\/","title":{"rendered":"V\u00dd\u010cITKY A VINA"},"content":{"rendered":"
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V\u00fd\u010ditky a vina id\u00fa mnoho kr\u00e1t ruka v ruke, \u010di u\u017e ich prij\u00edmame od druh\u00fdch a c\u00edtime sa za to, \u010do n\u00e1m vy\u010d\u00edtaj\u00fa, vinn\u00ed, alebo dokonca si sami vy\u010d\u00edtame, \u017ee to a ono sme nespravili spr\u00e1vne, mohli sme nie\u010do urobi\u0165 inak a c\u00edtime sa vinn\u00ed za to, \u017ee sme zlyhali alebo sme spravili chybu. Obe mo\u017enosti s\u00fa ve\u013emi zl\u00e9 pre n\u00e1s.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"V\u00fd\u010ditky<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

To, ke\u010f n\u00e1m ostatn\u00ed nie\u010do vy\u010d\u00edtaj\u00fa, je v podstate forma manipul\u00e1cie, aby sme sa c\u00edtili zle. Je to z nastavenia \u2013 ve\u010f ke\u010f trp\u00edm, tak nech trpia aj ostatn\u00ed. Tieto vzorce m\u00e1 v sebe mnoho \u013eud\u00ed, mnoho \u013eud\u00ed sa sna\u017e\u00ed ubl\u00ed\u017ei\u0165 len preto, aby v tom neboli sami, aby sa len oni tak nec\u00edtili. A mnohokr\u00e1t je to pr\u00e1ve preto, aby sa to\u013eko neobvi\u0148ovali a nec\u00edtili v\u00fd\u010ditky, \u017ee len oni nie\u010do pokazili. Mysl\u00edme si, \u017ee n\u00e1m pom\u00f4\u017ee, ke\u010f sa aj niekto in\u00fd bude c\u00edti\u0165 zle a bude si vy\u010d\u00edta\u0165 veci a bude sa c\u00edti\u0165 vinn\u00fd. \u017de to bude menej na n\u00e1s, \u017ee u\u017e toho to\u013eko nebudeme ma\u0165, \u017ee sa o to rozdel\u00edme. No tak to nefunguje. Nakoniec takto ubl\u00ed\u017eime nielen sebe, ale aj ostatn\u00fdm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pre\u010do to naozaj rob\u00edme?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Tu je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 zamyslie\u0165 sa \u2013 ak vy\u010d\u00edtame, pre\u010do to naozaj rob\u00edme? \u010co je skuto\u010dn\u00fd d\u00f4vod? Pre\u010do potrebujeme niekoho zhodi\u0165, alebo mu uk\u00e1za\u0165, ak\u00fd je zl\u00fd, nehodnotn\u00fd, \u010do nerob\u00ed dos\u0165 dobre? Je to len preto, \u017ee n\u00e1m to ukazuje na\u0161u vlastn\u00fa nehodnotu, s ktorou nevieme my ni\u010d robi\u0165? Tak si to takto kompenzujeme? Alebo je to nie\u010do in\u00e9? Niekedy je to len preto, \u017ee nevieme inak komunikova\u0165, preto\u017ee sme to videli doma, od na\u0161ich rodi\u010dov a v\u0161ade okolo n\u00e1s. Mnoho \u013eud\u00ed pou\u017e\u00edva tento \u0161t\u00fdl komunik\u00e1cie, mnoho kr\u00e1t za\u010d\u00ednaj\u00fa svoje vyjadrenia napr\u00edklad: ja ti ni\u010d nevy\u010d\u00edtam, no toto si urobil\u2026. toto si nezvl\u00e1dol\u2026 toto si mal robi\u0165 tak. Zab\u00fadame, \u017ee toto v\u0161etko s\u00fa v\u00fd\u010ditky. \u00c1no, mo\u017eno svojim sp\u00f4sobom m\u00e1me pravdu, \u017ee doty\u010dn\u00fd, \u010di u\u017e  partner alebo kolega, to mohol urobi\u0165 inak. No mo\u017eno nevedel, \u017ee sa to d\u00e1. Mo\u017eno nevedel, \u017ee my nie\u010do in\u00e9 o\u010dak\u00e1vame. Mo\u017eno robil to najlep\u0161ie, \u010do vedel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mohlo by v\u00e1s zauj\u00edma\u0165<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
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PORAD\u0147A<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

SEBAHODNOTA V PRAXI<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Mnohokr\u00e1t sa p\u00fa\u0161\u0165ame do boja so sebou sam\u00fdmi, namiesto toho, aby sme si sami seba ust\u00e1li. Niekedy rad\u0161ej unikneme alebo zves\u00edme hlavu a prij\u00edmame to, \u010do\u2026 \u010c\u00edtaj \u010fa\u013eej<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sme v tom spr\u00e1vnom vz\u0165ahu?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Tak, \u010do ak by sme napr\u00edklad partnerovi povedali, \u010do sa n\u00e1s dotklo a \u010do by sa n\u00e1m viac p\u00e1\u010dilo? Ak\u00e1 je na\u0161a predstava, alebo \u010do by n\u00e1m urobilo v\u00e4\u010d\u0161iu rados\u0165? \u010casto budeme prekvapen\u00ed, \u017ee n\u00e1\u0161mu partnerovi v podstate ani nenapadalo, \u017ee by sme to takto mohli chcie\u0165, preto\u017ee predpokladal, \u017ee to, \u010do spravil, je to najlep\u0161ie pre n\u00e1s. No ke\u010f to odkomunikujeme, ke\u010f povieme presne, \u010do chceme, tak nem\u00e1 d\u00f4vod to tak pre n\u00e1s neurobi\u0165..<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Samozrejme, ak m\u00e1 z\u00e1ujem, ak n\u00e1s miluje, ak ten vz\u0165ah<\/a> m\u00e1 zmysel. Ak aj napriek tomu, \u017ee to komunikujeme, v tom pokra\u010duje, tak bu\u010f to rob\u00ed naschv\u00e1l, alebo nem\u00e1 z\u00e1ujem to pre n\u00e1s robi\u0165. Tu si treba polo\u017ei\u0165 ot\u00e1zku, \u010di sme v tom spr\u00e1vnom vz\u0165ahu a \u010di to m\u00e1 v\u00f4bec zmysel, a \u010di chceme by\u0165 v takom vz\u0165ahu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010c\u00edm viac sa s\u00fastred\u00edme na negat\u00edvne veci, t\u00fdm viac je negat\u00edvne nastaven\u00fd aj partner<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Chceme by\u0165 vo vz\u0165ahu, kde sme navz\u00e1jom podporovan\u00ed, kde vieme komunikova\u0165 v\u0161etky d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 veci a pom\u00e1ha\u0165 si navz\u00e1jom, alebo v takom, kde si budeme donekone\u010dna v\u0161etko vy\u010d\u00edta\u0165, pozera\u0165 sa st\u00e1le do minulosti a vy\u0165ahova\u0165  v\u0161etky chyby, ktor\u00e9 partner kedy spravil?  V skuto\u010dnosti sa t\u00fdmto ni\u010d nevyrie\u0161i. Ani vtedy, ak budeme neust\u00e1le poukazova\u0165 na v\u0161etko, \u010do nebolo pod\u013ea na\u0161ich predst\u00e1v.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Takto to nefunguje. \u010c\u00edm viac ideme do minulosti a vy\u0165ahujeme v\u0161etko zl\u00e9, t\u00fdm viac d\u00e1vame najavo t\u00fa nehodnotu, nere\u0161pekt a to, \u017ee v podstate nevieme prija\u0165, \u010do sa deje. Namiesto komunik\u00e1cie toho, \u010do sa n\u00e1s dot\u00fdka a \u010do je pre n\u00e1s d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9, v podstate len st\u00e1le poukazujeme na negat\u00edvne veci. A \u010d\u00edm viac sa s\u00fastred\u00edme na negat\u00edvne veci, t\u00fdm viac je negat\u00edvne nastaven\u00fd aj partner, aj my, a t\u00fdm viac si ubli\u017eujeme. \u010c\u00edm viac si ubli\u017eujeme, t\u00fdm viac c\u00edtime t\u00fa vinu a to\u010d\u00edme sa v tom donekone\u010dna.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Probl\u00e9m m\u00e1 ten, kto n\u00e1m nie\u010do vy\u010d\u00edta\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u010co rob\u00ed vina s na\u0161im telom je, \u017ee nar\u00fa\u0161a na\u0161e energetick\u00e9 pole, na\u0161u auru. A t\u00fdm, \u017ee ju nar\u00fa\u0161a, \u013eahko pod\u013eahneme r\u00f4znym psychick\u00fdm \u00fatokom<\/a> a m\u00f4\u017ee n\u00e1m mnoho vec\u00ed okolo n\u00e1s ubli\u017eova\u0165 \u010faleko viac, ako keby sme boli siln\u00ed vo svojom strede, pevn\u00ed, bez pocitov viny a bez sebaobvi\u0148ovania. Preto je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 zbavova\u0165 sa tej viny a nov\u00fa si nevytv\u00e1ra\u0165. A jedna z vec\u00ed, ktor\u00e1 n\u00e1m k tomu pom\u00f4\u017ee, je presta\u0165 nie\u010do vy\u010d\u00edta\u0165  sebe a ostatn\u00fdm. A ak n\u00e1m niekto nie\u010do vy\u010d\u00edta, je potrebn\u00e9 si uvedomi\u0165, \u017ee probl\u00e9m m\u00e1 ten, kto n\u00e1m nie\u010do vy\u010d\u00edta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A bu\u010f ten sp\u00f4sob komunik\u00e1cie prijmeme a stoto\u017en\u00edme sa s tou v\u00fd\u010ditkou a bude n\u00e1s to bolie\u0165, alebo si uvedom\u00edme, \u017ee to je jeho sp\u00f4sob komunik\u00e1cie. A uk\u00e1\u017eeme mu, \u017ee n\u00e1m to ubli\u017euje a \u017ee nechceme, aby sa s nami takto rozpr\u00e1val. Povieme mu, ako sa n\u00e1s to dot\u00fdka, \u010do n\u00e1m to sp\u00f4sobuje a pre\u010do n\u00e1s to bol\u00ed. A budeme veri\u0165, \u017ee to pochop\u00ed a prestane to robi\u0165. No z\u00e1rove\u0148 si treba vybudova\u0165 prirodzen\u00fd odstup od t\u00fdchto vec\u00ed, preto\u017ee ke\u010f n\u00e1m niekto nie\u010do povie, tak to mo\u017eno nie v\u017edy mysl\u00ed ako v\u00fd\u010ditku, napriek tomu, \u017ee my to tak zoberieme. A na\u0161e obvi\u0148ovanie sa bude bezd\u00f4vodn\u00e9. Tak\u017ee treba op\u00e4\u0165 komunikova\u0165 a p\u00fdta\u0165 sa, \u010do t\u00fdm vlastne myslel, pre\u010do to tak povedal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mnohokr\u00e1t nie je a\u017e tak\u00e9 d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9, \u010do povieme, ale ak\u00fdm sp\u00f4sobom to povieme\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Komunik\u00e1cia je z\u00e1klad v\u0161etk\u00e9ho v medzi\u013eudsk\u00fdch vz\u0165ahoch<\/a>. V tom, aby sme neboli ubl\u00ed\u017een\u00ed a v tom, aby sme sa s \u013eahkos\u0165ou mohli pohybova\u0165 vpred, aby sme mohli r\u00e1s\u0165 ako \u013eudsk\u00e9 bytosti, aby sme sa mohli st\u00e1va\u0165 lep\u0161\u00edmi. Sk\u00faste sa najbli\u017e\u0161ie, ke\u010f budete nie\u010do vy\u010d\u00edta\u0165 partnerovi, zastavi\u0165 a sk\u00fasite mu to poveda\u0165 naozaj cez to, \u017ee v\u00e1s to bol\u00ed alebo, \u017ee toto v\u00e1m sp\u00f4sobila t\u00e1 dan\u00e1 situ\u00e1cia. Neza\u010dnite hne\u010f \u00fato\u010di\u0165 a vy\u010d\u00edta\u0165, \u017ee nie\u010do zase poka\u0161\u013eal, \u017ee nie\u010do  zle spravil. Mo\u017eno budete prekvapen\u00ed z v\u00fdsledku.  Preto\u017ee mnohokr\u00e1t nie je a\u017e tak\u00e9 d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9, \u010do povieme, ale ak\u00fdm sp\u00f4sobom to povieme. A ke\u010f budeme hovori\u0165 naozaj tie d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 veci a t\u00fdm najspr\u00e1vnej\u0161\u00edm sp\u00f4sobom, cel\u00fd n\u00e1\u0161 \u017eivot bude jednoduch\u0161\u00ed. Na\u0161e vz\u0165ahy bud\u00fa silnej\u0161ie a kraj\u0161ie a my budeme spokojnej\u0161\u00ed.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

V\u00fd\u010ditky a vina id\u00fa mnoho kr\u00e1t ruka v ruke, \u010di u\u017e ich prij\u00edmame od druh\u00fdch a c\u00edtime sa za to, \u010do n\u00e1m vy\u010d\u00edtaj\u00fa, vinn\u00ed, alebo dokonca si sami vy\u010d\u00edtame, \u017ee to a ono sme nespravili spr\u00e1vne, mohli sme nie\u010do urobi\u0165 inak a c\u00edtime sa vinn\u00ed za to, \u017ee sme zlyhali alebo sme spravili chybu. Obe mo\u017enosti s\u00fa ve\u013emi zl\u00e9 pre n\u00e1s….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":990859,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","iawp_total_views":1,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-990593","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-nezaradene","pmpro-has-access"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990593","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=990593"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990593\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/990859"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=990593"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=990593"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=990593"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}