{"id":990587,"date":"2023-06-19T21:33:14","date_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:33:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/haranta.dusanrybar.sk\/?p=990587"},"modified":"2023-06-19T21:33:14","modified_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:33:14","slug":"pomahame-alebo-zachranujeme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/pomahame-alebo-zachranujeme\/","title":{"rendered":"POM\u00c1HAME ALEBO ZACHRA\u0147UJEME"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Zachra\u0148ovanie e\u0161te nikomu nepomohlo, aj ke\u010f to tak na prv\u00fd poh\u013ead m\u00f4\u017ee vyzera\u0165.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

M\u00f4\u017eeme ma\u0165 pocit, \u017ee ten druh\u00fd to s\u00e1m nezvl\u00e1dne. My to predsa vieme lep\u0161ie, my vieme ako na to, my sme t\u00ed, ktor\u00ed by mali zachra\u0148ova\u0165. A k tomu v\u0161etk\u00e9mu sa budeme c\u00edti\u0165 dobre, preto\u017ee sme potrebn\u00ed, u\u017eito\u010dn\u00ed a d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00ed. No v skuto\u010dnosti, ak niekoho zachra\u0148ujeme, tak mu ned\u00e1vame mo\u017enos\u0165 pre\u017ei\u0165 jeho vlastn\u00e9 sk\u00fa\u0161ky. Zvl\u00e1dnu\u0165 to, \u010do je pre\u0148ho d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 sa nau\u010di\u0165. V podstate ho \u201euchr\u00e1nime\u201c od nejak\u00e9ho probl\u00e9mu, aj ke\u010f pr\u00e1ve ten probl\u00e9m by ho mo\u017eno vymr\u0161til niekam dopredu. Uk\u00e1zal mu nie\u010do, \u010do potreboval vidie\u0165, pou\u010dil sa z toho a posunul sa \u010falej vo svojom \u017eivote.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Pom\u00e1hame\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Niekedy je ve\u013emi  \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 rozozna\u0165, kedy zachra\u0148ujeme a kedy pom\u00e1hame\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Niekedy sa n\u00e1m to dokonca m\u00f4\u017ee zda\u0165 by\u0165 sebeck\u00e9, len tak sa pozera\u0165 a neurobi\u0165 ni\u010d, lebo my vieme, \u010d\u00edm si prech\u00e1dza, lebo my u\u017e to pozn\u00e1me. Pre\u010do by si t\u00fdm musel niekto prejs\u0165,<\/a> ke\u010f t\u00fdm sk\u00fa\u0161kam m\u00f4\u017eeme zabr\u00e1ni\u0165? No sk\u00fasme si spomen\u00fa\u0165 na to, ak\u00e9 to bolo, ke\u010f sme to e\u0161te nevedeli. \u010co keby niekto pri\u0161iel, a zobral n\u00e1m t\u00fa mo\u017enos\u0165 sa to nau\u010di\u0165. Boli by sme radi? Alebo sme radi, \u017ee sme sa to nau\u010dili?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Niekedy je ve\u013emi \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 rozozna\u0165, kedy zachra\u0148ujeme a kedy pom\u00e1hame. Z\u00e1kladn\u00fd rozdiel je v tom, \u017ee o pomoc n\u00e1s \u0161tandardne niekto po\u017eiada, a my by sme mali vyhodnoti\u0165, \u010di je to aj v na\u0161om z\u00e1ujme pom\u00f4c\u0165 doty\u010dn\u00e9mu a tak isto, \u010di je to aj v jeho z\u00e1ujme. T\u00fdm, \u017ee to nie je n\u00e1\u0161 \u017eivot, ale \u017eivot niekoho in\u00e9ho, tak m\u00f4\u017eeme ma\u0165 lep\u0161\u00ed nadh\u013ead nad situ\u00e1ciou, ktor\u00e1 sa mu deje a m\u00f4\u017eeme poskytn\u00fa\u0165 aj in\u00fd poh\u013ead. Pr\u00e1ve ten in\u00fd poh\u013ead je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00fd na to, aby \u010dlovek mal mo\u017enos\u0165 pochopi\u0165, \u017ee pr\u00e1ve to je jeho sk\u00fa\u0161ka a to je jedna z vec\u00ed, ktor\u00e9 mus\u00ed zvl\u00e1dnu\u0165 on s\u00e1m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

U\u010dia sa v\u00e1\u017ei\u0165 si seba sam\u00fdch za to, \u017ee to dok\u00e1zali<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Pr\u00edklad \u2013 ak zachra\u0148ujeme cel\u00fd \u010das na\u0161e deti, aby sa mali dobre, aby mali v\u0161etk\u00e9ho dostatok a \u010faleko viac ako potrebuj\u00fa \u2013 ak im k osemn\u00e1stym narodenin\u00e1m k\u00fapime nov\u00e9 auto, tak sa \u0165a\u017eko nau\u010dia hodnote pe\u0148az\u00ed a \u010do to je zarobi\u0165 si na vlastn\u00e9 auto. Ten pocit z toho, \u017ee si ho k\u00fapia sami, ten pocit toho, \u017ee si ho musia plati\u0165, ale je ich vlastn\u00e9, je to nie\u010do, \u010do si oni odrobili,<\/a> \u010do si zasl\u00fa\u017eili. T\u00fdm sa u\u010dia zodpovednosti, v\u00e1\u017ei\u0165 si seba sam\u00fdch za to, \u017ee to dok\u00e1zali, v\u00e1\u017ei\u0165 si ostatn\u00fdch a v\u0161etko, \u010do maj\u00fa. Ke\u010f im ho len tak d\u00e1me, uberieme ich o tieto mo\u017enosti sa to u\u010di\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oni sa c\u00edtia dobre, my sa c\u00edtime dobre, no v\u0161etko je to povrchov\u00e9\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Inokedy sa sami m\u00f4\u017eeme c\u00edti\u0165 tak, \u017ee potrebujeme by\u0165 zachr\u00e1nen\u00ed. No ke\u010f sa cez to dostaneme, cez v\u0161etky tie situ\u00e1cie, cez v\u0161etko, pre\u010do sa n\u00e1m to deje, tak nakoniec z toho vyjdeme \u010faleko silnej\u0161\u00ed. Pravdepodobne si povieme, \u017ee sme radi, \u017ee nikto nepri\u0161iel a nezachr\u00e1nil n\u00e1s. Pre\u010do to potom rob\u00edme druh\u00fdm a nedovol\u00edme im, aby aj oni mohli by\u0165 na seba hrd\u00ed za to, \u017ee to dok\u00e1zali?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taktie\u017e to m\u00f4\u017eeme pou\u017e\u00edva\u0165 ako manipul\u00e1ciu okolia. A to t\u00fdm, \u017ee sa za\u010d\u00edname hra\u0165 na to chudiatko, na t\u00fa obe\u0165, ktor\u00e1 potrebuje by\u0165 zachr\u00e1nen\u00e1 a to je u\u017e \u00faplne in\u00e1 \u00farove\u0148. Potom sa c\u00edtime zle a v podstate si m\u00f4\u017eeme za to sami, aj ke\u010f to tak na prv\u00fd poh\u013ead nevyzer\u00e1. Potreba pozornosti, potreba toho, aby n\u00e1s niekto zachra\u0148oval, aby sme d\u00e1vali mo\u017enos\u0165 t\u00fdm, ktor\u00ed chc\u00fa zachra\u0148ova\u0165\u2026 Oni sa c\u00edtia dobre, my sa c\u00edtime dobre, no v skuto\u010dnosti sa nikto nec\u00edti dobre, je to v\u0161etko povrchov\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Je jednoduch\u0161ie za\u010da\u0165 zachra\u0148ova\u0165 ostatn\u00fdch\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Preto\u017ee ten, \u010do zachra\u0148uje, m\u00e1 v\u00e4\u010d\u0161inou z mojej sk\u00fasenosti jeden hlavn\u00fd probl\u00e9m. A ten je, \u017ee sa nechce pozrie\u0165 na svoj \u017eivot, nechce rie\u0161i\u0165 s\u00e1m seba, nechce vidie\u0165, \u010do sa mu deje vo svojom \u017eivote a vyh\u00fdba sa tomu. Tak je jednoduch\u0161ie za\u010da\u0165 zachra\u0148ova\u0165 ostatn\u00fdch, prevzia\u0165 zodpovednos\u0165 za in\u00fdch  na svoje plecia a svoju vlastn\u00fa zodpovednos\u0165 odhodi\u0165 niekde nabok. Pokia\u013e sa budeme tv\u00e1ri\u0165, \u017ee je prvorad\u00e9 zachr\u00e1ni\u0165 ostatn\u00fdch a pom\u00f4c\u0165 im, preto\u017ee to je na\u0161a \u00faloha, v skuto\u010dnosti sa \u010faleko nedostane, ak sa neza\u010dneme pozera\u0165 sami na seba a na svoj vlastn\u00fd \u017eivot. Na to, k\u00fdm sme, \u010do naozaj chceme my v \u017eivote a \u010do sa n\u00e1m deje v \u017eivote. Ke\u010f si to za\u010dneme v\u0161\u00edma\u0165 a uvedomova\u0165, tak zist\u00edme, \u017ee u\u017e mo\u017eno t\u00e1 potreba niekoho zachra\u0148ova\u0165 tu nie je. Preto\u017ee u\u017e nemus\u00edme uteka\u0165 sami pred sebou, pred t\u00fdm, \u010do c\u00edtime a \u010do sa n\u00e1m deje. No ak sme na tej druhej strane, \u017ee my sme t\u00ed, ktor\u00ed h\u013ead\u00e1me st\u00e1le toho z\u00e1chrancu, tak sa treba pozrie\u0165 na to, pre\u010do sme v tej obeti. Pre\u010do m\u00e1me t\u00fa potrebu, aby n\u00e1s niekto zachra\u0148oval, kto sme bez tej z\u00e1chrany, bez tej pomoci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naozaj sme tak\u00ed slab\u00ed, \u017ee to nedok\u00e1\u017eeme zvl\u00e1dnu\u0165?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Alebo je to teda len nejak\u00e1 hra, aby sme nie\u010do z\u00edskali a op\u00e4\u0165, aby sme nemuseli rie\u0161i\u0165 sam\u00fdch seba, preto\u017ee zhod\u00edme zodpovednos\u0165 na niekoho, kto si ju ve\u013emi r\u00e1d preberie a chce n\u00e1s zachr\u00e1ni\u0165?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V ka\u017edej situ\u00e1cii by sme si mali uvedomi\u0165, \u010di sme naozaj sami sebou a preber\u00e1me zodpovednos\u0165 sami za seba alebo sa hr\u00e1me na z\u00e1chrancu alebo obe\u0165. Ak si to dok\u00e1\u017eeme uvedomi\u0165 a tie hry okolo toho zastavi\u0165, za\u010dneme \u017ei\u0165 plnohodnotnej\u0161\u00ed \u017eivot a viac si uvedomova\u0165 v\u0161etko okolo n\u00e1s a to, \u010do sa n\u00e1m naozaj deje.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Zachra\u0148ovanie e\u0161te nikomu nepomohlo, aj ke\u010f to tak na prv\u00fd poh\u013ead m\u00f4\u017ee vyzera\u0165. M\u00f4\u017eeme ma\u0165 pocit, \u017ee ten druh\u00fd to s\u00e1m nezvl\u00e1dne. My to predsa vieme lep\u0161ie, my vieme ako na to, my sme t\u00ed, ktor\u00ed by mali zachra\u0148ova\u0165. A k tomu v\u0161etk\u00e9mu sa budeme c\u00edti\u0165 dobre, preto\u017ee sme potrebn\u00ed, u\u017eito\u010dn\u00ed a d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00ed. No v skuto\u010dnosti, ak niekoho…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":990862,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","iawp_total_views":1,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-990587","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-nezaradene","pmpro-has-access"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990587","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=990587"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990587\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/990862"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=990587"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=990587"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=990587"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}