{"id":990583,"date":"2023-06-19T21:32:34","date_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:32:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/haranta.dusanrybar.sk\/?p=990583"},"modified":"2023-06-19T21:32:34","modified_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:32:34","slug":"vyjadrit-sa-alebo-mlcat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/vyjadrit-sa-alebo-mlcat\/","title":{"rendered":"VYJADRI\u0164 SA, ALEBO ML\u010cA\u0164?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Niektor\u00ed z n\u00e1s maj\u00fa tendenciu v\u0161etko zo seba vychrli\u0165 a ide\u00e1lne zhodi\u0165 vinu alebo zodpovednos\u0165 na niekoho in\u00e9ho. Je to t\u00e1 \u013eah\u0161ia cesta. No je spr\u00e1vna?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

In\u00ed sa zase stiahnu do seba a ml\u010dia. Pozoruj\u00fa, mnohokr\u00e1t potl\u00e1\u010daj\u00fa sami seba a trpia. Je t\u00e1to cesta t\u00e1 spr\u00e1vna? Ani jedna nie je spr\u00e1vna. Obe ubli\u017euj\u00fa a v ani jednej si neuvedomujeme svoju vlastn\u00fa zodpovednos\u0165 bez jej zhadzovania na niekoho in\u00e9ho alebo jej preberania si ju na seba, aj za ostatn\u00fdch. \u010ci u\u017e sa jedn\u00e1 o partnerstvo alebo o ak\u00fako\u013evek in\u00fa interakciu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Vyjadri\u0165\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

\u010co je potom spr\u00e1vne? Ako sa zachova\u0165?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Presn\u00fd n\u00e1vod nie je mo\u017en\u00e9 da\u0165. Ka\u017ed\u00fd z n\u00e1s je in\u00fd a ka\u017ed\u00e1 situ\u00e1cia je in\u00e1. No to, \u010do m\u00f4\u017eeme spravi\u0165, je, \u017ee si za\u010dneme upratova\u0165 v sebe. Za\u010dneme si uvedomova\u0165 d\u00f4sledky n\u00e1\u0161ho spr\u00e1vania a prijmeme zodpovednos\u0165 za toto spr\u00e1vanie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pokia\u013e zvykneme za\u00fato\u010di\u0165 a v\u0161etko odhodi\u0165 od seba, tak je potrebn\u00e9 u\u010di\u0165 sa zastavi\u0165 predt\u00fdm, ako nie\u010do povieme. Presne v tom momente, ke\u010f poc\u00edtime, \u017ee toto nezvl\u00e1dame a nechceme sa tak c\u00edti\u0165 a chceme t\u00fa boles\u0165<\/a> alebo in\u00fd pocit prehodi\u0165 na niekoho in\u00e9ho. Pri\u010dom je jedno, \u010di je to z toho, aby trpel s nami a poc\u00edtil, \u010do n\u00e1m sp\u00f4sobil, alebo z toho, aby sme to my prestali c\u00edti\u0165. V tom zastaven\u00ed si treba uvedomi\u0165, \u010do sa pr\u00e1ve stalo a pre\u010do sa n\u00e1s to dotklo. Pre\u010do n\u00e1s to zabolelo? A komunikova\u0165 nie formou \u00fatoku a v\u00fd\u010ditiek, ale formou zdie\u013eania. Ako sa v tom c\u00edtime, \u010do sa n\u00e1s dotklo a ako sme to pochopili. Budeme prekvapen\u00ed, ako \u010dasto zist\u00edme, \u017ee to bolo len z nedorozumenia, po tom, ako n\u00e1m to bude vysvetlen\u00e9, ako to bolo myslen\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pre\u010do sa n\u00e1s to dotklo, ke\u010f to tak zabolelo?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

No ak to v sebe potl\u00e1\u010dame, uzatv\u00e1rame sa pred \u013eu\u010fmi a sami pred sebou a trp\u00edme. Za\u010dneme ma\u0165 pocit, \u017ee v\u0161etko okolo n\u00e1s je proti n\u00e1m a \u017eivot bude str\u00e1ca\u0165 zmysel. Postupne sa m\u00f4\u017eeme dopracova\u0165 a\u017e k r\u00f4znym form\u00e1m depresie<\/a>. Teda tak to budeme c\u00edti\u0165. No mnohokr\u00e1t je to len nespr\u00e1vne pomenovanie pre stav, kde je toho v n\u00e1s potla\u010den\u00e9ho to\u013eko, \u017ee sme preexponovan\u00ed pocitmi. Je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 dovoli\u0165 si vyjadri\u0165 svoje pocity a tak, ako aj v predo\u0161lom pr\u00edklade \u2013 za\u010da\u0165 sa p\u00fdta\u0165, \u010doho v n\u00e1s sa to dotklo a pre\u010do sa n\u00e1s to dotklo, ke\u010f to tak zabolelo. A komunikova\u0165 to, aby sme zistili, \u010di to tak naozaj bolo. V\u00fdsledok bude ve\u013emi podobn\u00fd, preto\u017ee m\u00e1lokedy n\u00e1m chce niekto bl\u00edzky \u00famyselne ubl\u00ed\u017ei\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00e4\u010d\u0161ina ubl\u00ed\u017een\u00ed je z nedorozumenia<\/a> a z dom\u00fd\u0161\u013eania si a namiesto toho, aby sme komunikovali a povedali, ako sme to pochopili alebo, \u017ee nerozumieme. Tak rad\u0161ej za\u00fato\u010d\u00edme, alebo sa stiahneme do seba, \u010d\u00edm vytv\u00e1rame ubl\u00ed\u017eenie. \u010co ak by sme rad\u0161ej za\u010dali komunikova\u0165 a ubl\u00ed\u017eenie zamenili za l\u00e1skavos\u0165 a pochopenie<\/strong>? Ako asi by sa zmenili na\u0161e vz\u0165ahy? Potom je tu druh\u00e1 rovina a t\u00e1 je, \u017ee ak o nie\u010dom vieme alebo nie\u010do vn\u00edmame, m\u00e1me to poveda\u0165?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nem\u00f4\u017eeme vidie\u0165 do vz\u0165ahu in\u00fdch..<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Prv\u00e1 ot\u00e1zka, ktor\u00fa by sme si mali polo\u017ei\u0165, je, \u010di povedan\u00edm ubl\u00ed\u017eime alebo pom\u00f4\u017eeme. Je to pravda, ktor\u00e1 plynie z n\u00e1s a t\u00fdka sa n\u00e1s a danej osoby. Alebo je to nie\u010do, \u010do sa n\u00e1s net\u00fdka, pr\u00edpadne sme o tom len po\u010duli? V prvom pr\u00edpade by sme mali by\u0165 pravdiv\u00ed, preto\u017ee len tak sa vz\u0165ah<\/a> m\u00f4\u017ee niekam posun\u00fa\u0165. A to aj v pr\u00edpade, \u017ee by to znamenalo z\u00e1nik vz\u0165ahu. Preto\u017ee koniec je v\u017edy len nov\u00fd za\u010diatok a to prin\u00e1\u0161a nov\u00e9 v\u00fdzvy a posun vpred<\/strong>. Stagn\u00e1cia a d\u00fafanie, \u017ee sa nie\u010do zmen\u00ed, n\u00e1m \u010dasom prines\u00fa len utrpenie a boles\u0165. V druhom pr\u00edpade, ke\u010f\u017ee sa n\u00e1s to net\u00fdka, nemali by sme do toho zasahova\u0165. Hlavne nie, ak to danej osobe ubl\u00ed\u017ei. A ak ide o partnerstvo tej danej osoby, tak sa to ve\u013emi r\u00fdchlo m\u00f4\u017ee oto\u010di\u0165 proti n\u00e1m. Preto\u017ee nem\u00f4\u017eeme vidie\u0165 do vz\u0165ahu in\u00fdch, m\u00f4\u017eeme si len myslie\u0165,  \u017ee vid\u00edme. No pravda je, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00f4\u017ee skuto\u010dne vidie\u0165 len do seba a aj na tom treba pracova\u0165<\/strong>, ke\u010f\u017ee m\u00e1me ka\u017ed\u00fd mnoho limitov a presved\u010den\u00ed, ktor\u00e9 n\u00e1m to nedovo\u013euj\u00fa.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Niektor\u00ed z n\u00e1s maj\u00fa tendenciu v\u0161etko zo seba vychrli\u0165 a ide\u00e1lne zhodi\u0165 vinu alebo zodpovednos\u0165 na niekoho in\u00e9ho. Je to t\u00e1 \u013eah\u0161ia cesta. No je spr\u00e1vna? In\u00ed sa zase stiahnu do seba a ml\u010dia. Pozoruj\u00fa, mnohokr\u00e1t potl\u00e1\u010daj\u00fa sami seba a trpia. Je t\u00e1to cesta t\u00e1 spr\u00e1vna? Ani jedna nie je spr\u00e1vna. Obe ubli\u017euj\u00fa a v…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":990864,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","iawp_total_views":2,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-990583","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-nezaradene","pmpro-has-access"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990583","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=990583"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990583\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/990864"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=990583"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=990583"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=990583"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}