{"id":990567,"date":"2023-06-19T21:29:39","date_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:29:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/haranta.dusanrybar.sk\/?p=990567"},"modified":"2023-06-19T21:29:39","modified_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:29:39","slug":"ignoracia-nastroj-na-vytvaranie-bolesti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/ignoracia-nastroj-na-vytvaranie-bolesti\/","title":{"rendered":"IGNOR\u00c1CIA"},"content":{"rendered":"
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V partnerstve je t\u00e1to met\u00f3da \u201emu\u010denia\u201c pou\u017e\u00edvan\u00e1 a\u017e pr\u00edli\u0161 \u010dasto, ke\u010f sa n\u00e1m nie\u010do nep\u00e1\u010di, alebo n\u00e1m nie\u010do ubl\u00ed\u017ei.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Ignor\u00e1cia\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Chceme by\u0165 vo vz\u0165ahu, kde n\u00e1m partner vedome ubli\u017euje?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Mysl\u00edme si, \u017ee v\u010faka ignor\u00e1cii partner pochop\u00ed, ako n\u00e1m nejak\u00e9 jeho spr\u00e1vanie alebo slov\u00e1 ubl\u00ed\u017eili alebo st\u00e1le ubli\u017euj\u00fa. Pravdou je, \u017ee to nepochop\u00ed. Preto\u017ee boles\u0165, ktor\u00fa t\u00fdm vytv\u00e1rame sp\u00f4sob\u00ed, \u017ee partner sa sna\u017e\u00ed vyrie\u0161i\u0165 t\u00fato boles\u0165 a to posledn\u00e9, \u010d\u00edm sa zaober\u00e1, je pr\u00ed\u010dina, pre\u010do sme to za\u010dali robi\u0165. Ignor\u00e1cia je pre vz\u0165ah de\u0161truk\u010dn\u00e1 a \u010d\u00edm dlh\u0161ie trv\u00e1, t\u00fdm je to hor\u0161ie. O to hor\u0161ie, ak to rob\u00edme vedome<\/a>, ve\u010f nech partner poc\u00edti, ak\u00e9 to je. Sme presved\u010den\u00ed, \u017ee kon\u00e1me spr\u00e1vne, no neuvedomujeme si d\u00f4sledky. Ten najz\u00e1va\u017enej\u0161\u00ed je, \u017ee namiesto toho, aby sme d\u00e1vali l\u00e1sku partnerovi, d\u00e1vame mu boles\u0165. Chceme by\u0165 vo vz\u0165ahu, kde n\u00e1m partner vedome ubli\u017euje? Ak nie, tak pre\u010do to my rob\u00edme?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naozaj ver\u00edme, \u017ee to bude zvl\u00e1da\u0165 donekone\u010dna a bude tolerova\u0165 a akceptova\u0165, \u017ee mu ubli\u017eujeme? Mnohokr\u00e1t ver\u00edme, \u017ee m\u00e1me na to pr\u00e1vo, \u017ee je to spravodliv\u00e9, preto\u017ee inak to nepochop\u00ed. \u010casto po\u010dujem od svojich klientov, \u017ee to je dokonca potrebn\u00e9 k tomu, aby si partner uvedomil, \u010do spravil, lebo ke\u010f mu to hovoria, tak ich nepo\u010d\u00fava.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

St\u00e1vame sa sudcom a katom<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ot\u00e1zne je, ak\u00fdm sp\u00f4sobom komunikujeme svojmu partnerovi fakt, \u017ee n\u00e1m nie\u010do ubli\u017euje. Ak mu to vykri\u010d\u00edme alebo za\u00fato\u010d\u00edme z bolesti, ktor\u00fa pr\u00e1ve c\u00edtime, tak n\u00e1s nevie po\u010d\u00fava\u0165 a pochopi\u0165, lebo automaticky prejde do obrannej poz\u00edcie a prest\u00e1va vn\u00edma\u0165 \u2013 vyp\u00edna sa. A my \u00fato\u010d\u00edme, nes\u00fastred\u00edme sa na seba a na to, \u017ee n\u00e1s sa nie\u010do dotklo a ubl\u00ed\u017eilo n\u00e1m. A neh\u013ead\u00e1me sp\u00f4sob ako to odkomunikova\u0165 tak, aby to bolo pochopen\u00e9. Namiesto toho sa st\u00e1vame sudcom a katom a za\u010dneme ubli\u017eova\u0165 partnerovi<\/a> cez ignor\u00e1ciu, lebo to si predsa zasl\u00fa\u017ei.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ne\u017eijeme \u017eivot toho druh\u00e9ho a nerozumieme jeho pohn\u00fatkam<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Je ve\u013ek\u00fd rozdiel medzi t\u00fdm, ke\u010f n\u00e1m ubli\u017euje spr\u00e1vanie n\u00e1\u0161ho partnera, a medzi t\u00fdm, ke\u010f sa my rozhodneme, \u017ee ho ideme vychov\u00e1va\u0165<\/a> a ukazova\u0165 mu, ak\u00e9 to je a ako n\u00e1s bol\u00ed jeho spr\u00e1vanie, a vedome mu ubli\u017eujeme. Nie je ni\u010d hor\u0161ie, ako vedome ubli\u017eova\u0165. Nem\u00e1me pr\u00e1vo s\u00fadi\u0165, posudzova\u0165 a vykon\u00e1va\u0165 rozsudky. Aj ke\u010f sme presved\u010den\u00ed, \u017ee my tomu v\u0161etk\u00e9mu rozumieme a m\u00e1me v\u0161etky inform\u00e1cie, ktor\u00e9 potrebujeme, nikdy to nie je tak a nikdy to tak ani nebude, preto\u017ee ne\u017eijeme \u017eivot toho druh\u00e9ho a nerozumieme jeho pohn\u00fatkam. Nerozumieme, \u010do on potrebuje, nerozumieme, \u010do s\u00fa jeho bolesti a starosti, nerozumieme, ak\u00e9 m\u00e1 on hodnoty, strachy a presved\u010denia a mnoho \u010fal\u0161ieho, o \u010dom ani netu\u0161\u00edme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010co ak partner nem\u00e1 z\u00e1ujem zmeni\u0165 svoje spr\u00e1vanie?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Partnerstvo, kde partnerovi vedome ubli\u017eujeme, by u\u017e nemalo by\u0165 partnerstvom. Ak l\u00e1sku nahrad\u00ed boles\u0165 a manipul\u00e1cia, to u\u017e nie je partnerstvo a je jedno, ako to budeme ospravedl\u0148ova\u0165 alebo obhajova\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ak nepou\u017e\u00edvame ignor\u00e1ciu, ale n\u00e1\u0161 soulmate<\/a> \u00e1no, je na n\u00e1s, \u010di mu odkomunikujeme ako n\u00e1m to ubli\u017euje a \u010di to budeme trpie\u0165, alebo povieme jasn\u00e9 nie. St\u00e1le m\u00e1me svoju slobodn\u00fa vo\u013ebu a m\u00f4\u017eeme sa rozhodn\u00fa\u0165, \u010di v takom partnerstve ostaneme, pokia\u013e n\u00e1\u0161 partner nem\u00e1 z\u00e1ujem zmeni\u0165 toto spr\u00e1vanie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bez vedomej komunik\u00e1cie partnerstvo nem\u00e1 \u0161ancu r\u00e1s\u0165 a rozv\u00edja\u0165 sa<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u010ci u\u017e sme na jednej alebo na druhej strane tohto spr\u00e1vania, alebo na oboch,  ve\u013emi d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 je, aby sme to zastavili a za\u010dali komunikova\u0165. Bez vedomej komunik\u00e1cie partnerstvo nem\u00e1 \u0161ancu r\u00e1s\u0165 a rozv\u00edja\u0165 sa. Je potrebn\u00e9 poveda\u0165 partnerovi, ak  sa n\u00e1s nie\u010do dotkne alebo n\u00e1s zabol\u00ed, no treba to v\u017edy robi\u0165 s vedom\u00edm toho, \u017ee n\u00e1m nechcel ubl\u00ed\u017ei\u0165, alebo \u017ee pr\u00ed\u010dina toho, pre\u010do sa n\u00e1s to dotklo, je v n\u00e1s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nie je spr\u00e1vne pou\u017e\u00edva\u0165 ignor\u00e1ciu a vedome ubli\u017eova\u0165<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Je to d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 preto, aby sme ne\u0161li do \u00fatoku, no namiesto toho komunikovali svoje pocity a ako to vpl\u00fdva na n\u00e1s a ako sa pri tom c\u00edtime. Prirodzene, ak m\u00e1me funguj\u00face partnerstvo a zvol\u00edme cestu komunik\u00e1cie<\/a> s partnerom, tak zist\u00edme, \u017ee n\u00e1\u0161 partner n\u00e1m nechcel ubl\u00ed\u017ei\u0165 a pok\u00fasi sa spravi\u0165 v\u0161etko pre to, aby sme spolu na\u0161li rie\u0161enie toho, aby n\u00e1m to prestalo ubli\u017eova\u0165. Ak n\u00e1\u0161 partner aj na\u010falej rob\u00ed to ist\u00e9, tak bu\u010f sme to dostato\u010dne nevysvetlili, alebo je mu \u013eahostajn\u00e9, ako sa c\u00edtime. \u010co je taktie\u017e odpove\u010f na to, ak\u00e9 m\u00e1me partnerstvo a \u010di m\u00e1 zmysel si necha\u0165 v \u0148om ubli\u017eova\u0165. V oboch pr\u00edpadoch v\u0161ak nie je spr\u00e1vne pou\u017e\u00edva\u0165 ignor\u00e1ciu a vedome ubli\u017eova\u0165.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nech je to u\u017e akoko\u013evek, mali by sme sa v\u017edy pozera\u0165 sami na seba, na to, ako sa my spr\u00e1vame a na to, \u010di vytv\u00e1rame a rozd\u00e1vame okolo seba l\u00e1sku alebo boles\u0165.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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