{"id":990565,"date":"2023-06-19T21:29:16","date_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:29:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/haranta.dusanrybar.sk\/?p=990565"},"modified":"2023-06-19T21:29:16","modified_gmt":"2023-06-19T19:29:16","slug":"vieme-byt-vo-vztahu-slobodni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/vieme-byt-vo-vztahu-slobodni\/","title":{"rendered":"VIEME BY\u0164 VO VZ\u0164AHU SLOBODN\u00cd?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Sloboda je nie\u010do, po \u010dom v\u0161etci t\u00fa\u017eime, \u010di u\u017e si to uvedomujeme, alebo nie. No v skuto\u010dnosti sa jej boj\u00edme. Boj\u00edme sa by\u0165 slobodn\u00ed a da\u0165 slobodu partnerovi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Mysl\u00edme si, \u017ee potrebujeme istoty v \u017eivote a vo vz\u0165ahoch, \u010d\u00edm vytv\u00e1rame z\u00e1vislosti, preto\u017ee len v nich c\u00edtime istoty. Ak by sme tieto z\u00e1vislost\u00ed pustili a dali slobodu, tak pr\u00edde neistota a strach, \u017ee pr\u00eddeme o v\u0161etko \u010do si nahr\u00e1dzame vo vz\u0165ahoch a to n\u00e1m sp\u00f4sob\u00ed e\u0161te v\u00e4\u010d\u0161ie prip\u00fatavanie sa k partnerovi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Potrebujeme o partnerovi vedie\u0165 v\u0161etko?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u010casto po\u010dujem nasledovn\u00e9 vyjadrenia. Spravila by som pre partnera v\u0161etko, len aby bol so mnou. Trh\u00e1 ma na kusy, \u017ee ma nemiluje tak, ako ja jeho. Vo vz\u0165ahu sa mus\u00edme obetova\u0165 a utrpenie patr\u00ed k l\u00e1ske. Mus\u00edm vedie\u0165 o partnerke v\u0161etko, kde sa nach\u00e1dza, \u010do rob\u00ed, lebo len ke\u010f ju m\u00e1m pod kontrolou, tak sa m\u00f4\u017eem uvo\u013eni\u0165. Tak stra\u0161ne mi ch\u00fdba\u0161, \u017ee neviem \u010do m\u00e1m robi\u0165. Neviem bez teba \u017ei\u0165. Si moja druh\u00e1 polovica. \u010co by som bez teba robila. Bez teba som straten\u00fd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Je to prejav l\u00e1sky?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Sme presved\u010den\u00ed o tom, \u017ee tieto vyjadrenia s\u00fa prejavom l\u00e1sky, \u017ee toto je t\u00e1 skuto\u010dn\u00e1 l\u00e1ska. Len v obetovan\u00ed sa, prejavujem skuto\u010dn\u00fa l\u00e1sku. Alebo len cez utrpenie dostato\u010dne prejav\u00edm ako ve\u013emi milujem. V skuto\u010dnosti ni\u010d z tohto nie je l\u00e1ska. V\u0161etky tieto vyjadrenia s\u00fa prejavom z\u00e1vislosti a vlastn\u00edctva. Poukazuje to na na\u0161u slabos\u0165 a na\u0161u n\u00edzku sebahodnotu, na na\u0161u potrebu si dop\u013a\u0148a\u0165 to, \u010do n\u00e1m ch\u00fdba, zvonku namiesto toho aby sme to na\u0161li v sebe. Preto\u017ee v\u0161etko sme schopn\u00ed dosiahnu\u0165 sami. Samozrejme s partnerom to je \u013eah\u0161ie a pr\u00edjemnej\u0161ie, no to je ten pr\u00eddavok, ten bonus ktor\u00fd, z\u00edskavame v zdravom partnerstve. No z\u00edska\u0165 ho m\u00f4\u017eeme len ak sa zbav\u00edme tej z\u00e1vislosti a sme v slobodnom partnerstve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Strach zo straty<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Z\u00e1vislos\u0165 a strach zo straty partnera sp\u00f4sobuj\u00fa v n\u00e1s st\u00e1le v\u00e4\u010d\u0161iu potrebu vlastni\u0165 a kontrolova\u0165 partnera, aby sme nepri\u0161li o tie istoty, ktor\u00e9 n\u00e1m partnerstvo d\u00e1va, no sp\u00f4sobuje to \u017ee uber\u00e1me slobodu a \u017eivotn\u00fd priestor partnerovi, \u010d\u00edm sa za\u010dne od n\u00e1s odtl\u00e1\u010da\u0165, preto\u017ee sa c\u00edti zviazan\u00fd. Tak namiesto toho aby sme t\u00fdm zabezpe\u010dili, \u017ee partnera nestrat\u00edme, ho za\u010d\u00edname str\u00e1ca\u0165. Ak v\u0161ak za\u010dneme d\u00f4verova\u0165, \u017ee sme dostato\u010dne hodnotn\u00fd pre partnera a budeme mu d\u00e1va\u0165 st\u00e1le v\u00e4\u010d\u0161iu slobodu, tak sa prestane odtl\u00e1\u010da\u0165 a pr\u00e1ve naopak, bude sa sna\u017ei\u0165 aby bol dostato\u010dne hodn\u00fd pre n\u00e1s ako partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00f4\u017eeme sa rozhodn\u00fa\u0165 ak\u00fd krok sprav\u00edme<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Nie je to v\u0161ak tak\u00e9 jednoduch\u00e9, \u017ee si len povieme, \u017ee si teraz d\u00e1vame slobodu. Je to pr\u00e1ca na sebe, na svojej hodnote, treba \u010deli\u0165 v\u0161etk\u00fdm t\u00fdm neistot\u00e1m a strachom, ktor\u00e9 sa za\u010dn\u00fa tvori\u0165. Strat\u00edme tie istoty -\u201epevn\u00e9 body\u201c v na\u0161om vz\u0165ahu, o ktor\u00e9 sme sa opierali a potrebujeme ich za\u010da\u0165 vymie\u0148a\u0165 za d\u00f4veru a pochopenie. Preto\u017ee istota je len il\u00fazia, skuto\u010dn\u00e1 istota neexistuje. Jedin\u00e9, \u010do je ist\u00e9 je to, \u017ee sme tu a teraz a m\u00f4\u017eeme sa rozhodn\u00fa\u0165 ak\u00fd \u010fal\u0161\u00ed krok sprav\u00edme so svojim \u017eivotom. A to, o \u010do sa m\u00f4\u017eeme skuto\u010dne oprie\u0165 je d\u00f4vera v n\u00e1s sam\u00fdch, stvorite\u013ea a \u017ee v\u0161etko sa deje pre n\u00e1s a v n\u00e1\u0161 prospech. V\u00e4\u010d\u0161inou  v\u0161ak pochop\u00edme a\u017e nesk\u00f4r, na \u010do boli jednotliv\u00e9 situ\u00e1cie v na\u0161om \u017eivote potrebn\u00e9. A aj nie\u010do \u010do sa n\u00e1m zdalo negat\u00edvne sa uk\u00e1\u017ee ako d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 pre n\u00e1\u0161 \u010fal\u0161\u00ed posun k lep\u0161ej verzii toho k\u00fdm sme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010co je to potom l\u00e1ska, ak z\u00e1vislos\u0165 a vlastn\u00edctvo nie s\u00fa prejavom l\u00e1sky? L\u00e1ska nebol\u00ed, l\u00e1ska je najvy\u0161\u0161ia forma citu, ktor\u00e1 je tak \u013eahk\u00e1 a \u010dist\u00e1, \u017ee ni\u010d nepotrebuje.  L\u00e1ska nepotrebuje ni\u010d dokazova\u0165, nepotrebuje sa predh\u00e1\u0148a\u0165 a porovn\u00e1va\u0165. L\u00e1ska jednoducho je.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00e1me mnoho druhov l\u00e1sky. L\u00e1ska k sebe, k de\u0165om, k rodi\u010dom, k pr\u00edrode, k zemi, k partnerovi, k priate\u013eom\u2026 Ka\u017ed\u00e1 ma in\u00fa prichu\u0165, no podstatn\u00e9 je aby bola \u010dist\u00e1 v slobode, \u00facte a re\u0161pekte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Len ak naozaj spozn\u00e1me l\u00e1sku a\u00a0za\u010dneme pr\u00e1ve sebal\u00e1skou, tak budeme schopn\u00ed nielen l\u00e1sku d\u00e1va\u0165, ale aj l\u00e1sku prij\u00edma\u0165.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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