{"id":990136,"date":"2023-06-02T12:12:34","date_gmt":"2023-06-02T10:12:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/haranta.dusanrybar.sk\/?p=990136"},"modified":"2023-06-02T12:12:34","modified_gmt":"2023-06-02T10:12:34","slug":"partnerska-komunikacia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/partnerska-komunikacia\/","title":{"rendered":"Partnersk\u00e1 komunik\u00e1cia"},"content":{"rendered":"
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V\u00edkend prebiehal ako ka\u017ed\u00fd in\u00fd, nejak\u00e9 drobn\u00e9 aktivity a hlavne oddych po n\u00e1ro\u010dnom t\u00fd\u017edni. U\u017e len ulo\u017ei\u0165 deti a vylo\u017ei\u0165 nohy (popr\u00edpade nie\u010do zauj\u00edmavej\u0161ie). V tom sa to spustilo: krik z k\u00fape\u013ene, kde boli deti, ktor\u00fdm sa e\u0161te nechce \u00eds\u0165 spa\u0165, tak robia v\u0161etko, len nie to, \u010do je treba. Rodi\u010dia za\u010d\u00ednaj\u00fa by\u0165 nerv\u00f3zni, pl\u00e1ny sa za\u010dali rozsyp\u00e1va\u0165. Napokon sa podarilo ulo\u017ei\u0165 aj tretie die\u0165a. Rozbehnut\u00e1 man\u017eelka sa pust\u00ed do man\u017eela a za\u010dne t\u00fdm, ako tento t\u00fd\u017ede\u0148 ni\u010d nespravil a v\u00fd\u010ditky kon\u010dia niekde pred dvoma rokmi, ke\u010f nie\u010do nespravil pre jej mamu. Man\u017eel sa sna\u017e\u00ed br\u00e1ni\u0165 a tak za\u010dne vy\u010d\u00edta\u0165 nasp\u00e4\u0165 prv\u00e9, \u010do mu pr\u00edde na myse\u013e od nedostatku sexu a\u017e po nedostato\u010dn\u00fd z\u00e1ujem o jeho potreby\u2026<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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\u00a0Na\u0161a komunik\u00e1cia b\u00fdva \u010dastokr\u00e1t len povrchn\u00e1. Zbavujeme sa cez \u0148u pocitov, ktor\u00fdm sa inokedy tak \u00faspe\u0161ne vyh\u00fdbame. Ke\u010f si aj dovol\u00edme nejak\u00e9 c\u00edti\u0165, v\u00e4\u010d\u0161inou s\u00fa to len tie povrchov\u00e9. Nechceme, alebo sa boj\u00edme pozrie\u0165 hlb\u0161ie do podstaty, hlb\u0161ie do seba a svojich pocitov, hlb\u0161ie do samotn\u00e9ho jadra dan\u00e9ho probl\u00e9mu, o ktorom sa tak ve\u013emi potrebujeme rozpr\u00e1va\u0165. \u0160koda, \u017ee to nepovieme z tejto h\u013abky a z toho skuto\u010dn\u00e9ho pocitu, ktor\u00fd n\u00e1m t\u00e1to situ\u00e1cia vyplavila.<\/p>

\u00a0<\/span>T\u00e1to povrchov\u00e1 komunik\u00e1cia n\u00e1m sp\u00f4sobuje,\u00a0 \u017ee sa navz\u00e1jom nepochop\u00edme, preto\u017ee do argument\u00e1cie vklad\u00e1me mno\u017estvo pr\u00edbehov a tak\u00fdch argumentov,\u00a0 ktor\u00e9 po chv\u00edli u\u017e ani ned\u00e1vaj\u00fa zmysel a nemaj\u00fa ni\u010d spolo\u010dn\u00e9 s p\u00f4vodn\u00fdm probl\u00e9mom.<\/p>

\u00a0<\/span>Pr\u00ed\u010dinou takejto komunik\u00e1cie, ktor\u00e1 \u010dasto kon\u010d\u00ed h\u00e1dkou a\u00a0obvi\u0148ovan\u00edm, je pov\u00e4\u010d\u0161ine ubl\u00ed\u017eenie jednej strany v d\u00f4sledku nejak\u00e9ho probl\u00e9mu alebo situ\u00e1cie. A ke\u010f\u017ee t\u00fa boles\u0165 v danej chv\u00edli nevieme de\u0161ifrova\u0165 a n\u00e1sledne komunikova\u0165, tak n\u00e1m toto ubl\u00ed\u017eenie m\u00f4\u017ee prer\u00e1s\u0165 do v\u00fd\u010ditiek a obvinen\u00ed.<\/p>

\u00a0<\/span>D\u00f4vodov m\u00f4\u017ee by\u0165 ve\u013ea, napr\u00edklad potreba, aby partner tie\u017e c\u00edtil boles\u0165, ak\u00fa c\u00edtim ja, alebo potreba pochopi\u0165, pre\u010do tak komunikoval, pre\u010do sa spr\u00e1val sp\u00f4sobom, ktor\u00fd mal za n\u00e1sledok na\u0161e ubl\u00ed\u017eenie.<\/p>

\u00a0<\/span>V na\u0161om pr\u00edbehu mohlo \u00eds\u0165 v skuto\u010dnosti o to, \u017ee man\u017eelka bola v piatok u kadern\u00ed\u010dky a man\u017eel si to nev\u0161imol (alebo pripravila skvel\u00fd obed pod\u013ea nov\u00e9ho receptu a nec\u00edtila pochvalu alebo v\u010fa\u010dnos\u0165 za snahu). Tak to potl\u00e1\u010dala a\u017e do momentu, kedy jej deti \u201cstla\u010dili gomb\u00edk\u201d, na\u0161tartovali em\u00f3cie a namiesto komunikovania, \u017ee sa jej dotklo jeho nev\u0161imnutie, vznikla nezmyseln\u00e1 h\u00e1dka, ktor\u00e1 ni\u010d nevyrie\u0161ila, len pokazila obom ve\u010der a v hor\u0161om pr\u00edpade aj nieko\u013eko dn\u00ed.<\/p>

\u00a0<\/span>Jedinou mo\u017enos\u0165ou, ako sa vyhn\u00fa\u0165 t\u00fdmto konfliktom, ktor\u00e9 n\u00e1m dok\u00e1\u017eu ubl\u00ed\u017ei\u0165 niekedy aj na dlh\u0161ie obdobie, je za\u010da\u0165 komunikova\u0165 z toho, \u010do tam naozaj je v danej chv\u00edli, z re\u00e1lnych pocitov a ubl\u00ed\u017eenia, ktor\u00e9 to sp\u00f4sobilo. \u017diadne pr\u00edbehy a prekr\u00facania. Sta\u010d\u00ed poveda\u0165, \u010do sp\u00f4sobilo dan\u00fa boles\u0165, ak\u00e9 konkr\u00e9tne spr\u00e1vanie spustilo ur\u010dit\u00e9 em\u00f3cie. T\u00fdm, \u017ee ned\u00e1me priestor v\u00fd\u010ditk\u00e1m a obvineniam, sa partner nebude c\u00edti\u0165 pod tlakom a neza\u010dne sa br\u00e1ni\u0165, ale sk\u00f4r n\u00e1s vypo\u010duje a vysvetl\u00ed svoj uhol poh\u013eadu, svoje mot\u00edvy konania a mo\u017eno si\u00a0aj vezme ponau\u010denie pre bud\u00facnos\u0165. O to sk\u00f4r m\u00f4\u017eeme cel\u00fa vec vyrie\u0161i\u0165 a uvo\u013eni\u0165 sa.<\/p>

\u00a0<\/span>V\u010faka tomu budeme \u017ei\u0165 ove\u013ea slobodnej\u0161ie, pre\u017e\u00edva\u0165 menej bolesti a m\u00f4\u017eeme si viac vychutn\u00e1va\u0165 n\u00e1\u0161 \u017eivot a momenty, ktor\u00e9 n\u00e1m prin\u00e1\u0161a, ktor\u00e9 by sme mohli z tej bolesti a ubl\u00ed\u017eenia prehliadnu\u0165.<\/p>

\u201eMiroslav Haranta\u201c<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

V\u00edkend prebiehal ako ka\u017ed\u00fd in\u00fd, nejak\u00e9 drobn\u00e9 aktivity a hlavne oddych po n\u00e1ro\u010dnom t\u00fd\u017edni. U\u017e len ulo\u017ei\u0165 deti a vylo\u017ei\u0165 nohy (popr\u00edpade nie\u010do zauj\u00edmavej\u0161ie). V tom sa to spustilo: krik z k\u00fape\u013ene, kde boli deti, ktor\u00fdm sa e\u0161te nechce \u00eds\u0165 spa\u0165, tak robia v\u0161etko, len nie to, \u010do je treba. Rodi\u010dia za\u010d\u00ednaj\u00fa by\u0165 nerv\u00f3zni, pl\u00e1ny…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":990138,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","iawp_total_views":1,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-990136","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-nezaradene","pmpro-has-access"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990136","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=990136"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/990136\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/990138"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=990136"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=990136"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haranta.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=990136"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}